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Many a faithful spouse has suspicions that their spouse is gay, or even worse, fears that he may be acting upon sexual urges with someone of the same sex.
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Here are some concerns that have been voiced by our clients:
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 Suspicious non-verbal communication with other men -- a look, a touch or hug that
lasts a little too long or has undertones of intimacy |
Possession of pornography depicting men engaged in sex acts with other men
(videos, magazines, photos stored on his computer) |
| Frequenting gay or bisexual Web sites -- check the history in your Internet browser |
| No longer sexually aroused by you or can't maintain his erection |
| A strong preference for anal sex |
| An abundance of male friends with whom he seems to be too close or too familiar |
| Lots of phone calls from other men |
| Buying or receiving expensive, intimate, or overly personal gifts from other men |
| Overreacts to anything concerning gay men -- extreme homophobic behavior |
| Unusually high percentage of male friends who are gay |
| Spends more time with his male friends than with you |
| Has male friends who are overly friendly |
| Watching gay porn on the Internet |
| Answering personal ads on gay Web sites |
| Cell phone bills traced to gay escort services or gay personal dating services |
| Matchbook covers, cocktail napkins or business cards from gay bars with phone numbers written inside. |
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This list goes on and on as every situation is unique, but the point is that your instincts are telling you something and you should pay close attention. Any of the observations above would make a spouse suspicious, while at the same time, any one of these things could be completely harmless. Also these observations are not reliable when trying to determine whether or not your spouse is gay. Because red flags can also be benign, you should refrain from making accusations until you have firm proof. The lack of proof is why this is likely to be the most emotionally draining time for the faithful spouse. There is no definitive answer for the suspecting spouse. Short of hearing a confession from your spouse, there is no way to know for sure.
What can I do if I believe that my spouse may be gay?
There are several things that you can do to help in resolving this painful situation. If you don’t have a close and communicative marriage and you feel that simply asking your spouse is not an option, consider spousal surveillance.
Spousal surveillance is a service available to anyone in doubt of their relationship. It means that we will follow your spouse and report their activities to you through written reports and video photography. In most cases, this is the only option since the gay partner is not exhibiting any clear patterns or signs. If you are unsure of when this behaviour may be happening, consider a time when your spouse may be travelling alone, or left home alone while you’re travelling. The gay spouse is not likely to take any risks knowing that they will be free to act on these impulses while you or they are far from home.
You might also consider computer monitoring equipment on your shared home computer. This causes a record of web sites and pages to be saved and viewed later. Many clients have been able to find out that their spouse has created profiles on numerous social sites, some of them geared toward gay individuals.
Pay special attention to calls made and received on your spouse’s phone. If your spouse is involved in same sex relationships, it’s unlikely that he will leave his phones unlocked and accessible to you, however, if that is not the case, and you have seen numbers that are questionable to you, call them. Block your number and make that call. You may find that your spouse is contacting escort services or other unsavoury businesses.
Finally, get yourself a good counsellor. More than anything you need strength for your daily routine. You need some peace, clarity and support in these uncertain moments and you’ll need greater support if and when your worst fears are confirmed. Even if your suspicions are eventually determined to be unfounded, you may want to examine your relationship to find out what is or may be lacking that caused this distance and suspicion in the first place. |
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