You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy. |
Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating
or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.) |
You’re cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you. |
Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it. |
He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the
evening smelling like Safeguard. |
He/She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program. |
He/She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know. |
He/She sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his/her office. |
The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill. |
Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID. |
Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate. |
He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt. |
Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than
one person at a time?" |
He buys himself new underwear. |
He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car. |
The cheating wife/Husband stops wearing her wedding ring. |
Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry. |
Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back. |
Suddenly wants to try new love techniques. |
He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you. |
He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often. |
Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub. |
Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house. |
You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work -
but supposedly worked on those days. |
Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music. |
Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence. |
Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance. |
Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone
to bed. |
He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and had to eat the
dinner you prepared when he got home. |
Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously. |
His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on
your husband's shirt. |
The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off. |
You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give
your spouse. |
Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily moved
to anger. |
You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice. |
He/she loses attention in the activities in the home. |
Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right. |
He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home. |
She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly. |
She has a "glow" about her. |
Atypical erratic behavior. |
He sneaks out of the house. |
She sleeps with her purse by the bed. |
She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later. |
He tells you can get hold of him at a different telephone number. |