WARNING SIGNS
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Signs of a Gay Spouse
- Suspicious non-verbal communication with other men -- a look, a touch or hug that lasts a little too long or has undertones of intimacy
- Possession of pornography depicting men engaged in sex acts with other men (videos, magazines, photos stored on his computer)
- Frequenting gay or bisexual Web sites -- check the history in your Internet browser
- No longer sexually aroused by you or can't maintain his erection
- A strong preference for anal sex
- An abundance of male friends with whom he seems to be too close or too familiar
- Lots of phone calls from other men
- Buying or receiving expensive, intimate, or overly personal gifts from other men
- Overreacts to anything concerning gay men -- extreme homophobic behavior
- Unusually high percentage of male friends who are gay
- Spends more time with his male friends than with you
- Male friends who are overly friendly
- Watching gay porn on the Internet
- Answering personal ads on gay Web sites
- Cell phone bills traced to gay escort services or gay personal dating services
- Matchbook covers, cocktail napkins or business cards from gay bars with phone numbers written inside.
Note about signs, of Cheating Partners
None of the signs above are fullproof. Don't confront until you have indisputable proof of the affair. Otherwise there will likely be further lying and more damage occurs. You may want to consult with someone who is objective before acting on your suspicions. Also, how you go about the confrontation can be important so you might need some help strategizing.